What Is Normal???

Inspired by a conversation I had with a good friend, check him out over at Scotties Toy Box lots of really good stuff over there, if you have a moment go over and show some love…

So… what is it to be normal? What qualities must a person possess within themselves which would be enough to fit the definition? Can normality even exist if we are all uniquely different?

Here’s an excerpt of a conversation I had with someone a while back, I’ll spare you the details of it all, but it revolves around the idea that I wanted to keep the friends I had before meeting her vs letting them go if there was to be a progression into a relationship, longer story short we don’t end up making it due to a lot of things, but I guess those are for stories later I suppose…

I know you’re thinking what does any of that have to do with normality well as it was told to me it’s what normal people do, letting friends go for the sake of something more with another is how a normal person thinks, i’m not into arguing if such an action is rite or wrong as I feel with that it’s a matter of personal opinon…

This idea though that something is what a normal person does is very dangerous I feel, in the sense it perpetuates the idea that there is an ideal that we as humans have that needs to be met…

In another excerpt from someone else, again I will spare the details of everything lol, what worries me is near the end where we see “its how I am. Its how most people I know are.” 

I’m all for independent thinking, if someomes thought or opinion is there own then I respect it, for it to have greater meaning only for the the fact it’s how most people think, well that’s where things get a little iffy for me…

So what do you think about it all, does the idea of being normal exist, if it does then what is it really, for me personally I think normal is a state of mind, there are no rite or wrong answers when it comes to how life should be approached, it’s all manifested within in the person, theres no way that one could really expect everyone to think the same, what we have here are examples of just that, a persons thoughts personally on what they feel is accurate, some may say that majority rules but I can’t say it applies to ones thinking it just can’t…

Just my opinion really, but like I always say I don’t have all the answers, the thought of an absolute way of thinking or personality to have to be “normal” scares me in a way honestly should it exist, it always begs the question of what is the person thereafter if they do not meet the status quo, just something to think about really…

Thanks for reading if you got this far, now off you go to enjoy some the more normal bloggers…

 

5 thoughts on “What Is Normal???

  1. Well Cory that is a great topic. I enjoyed the read. I love the shout out also. I think there is a bit of wordplay or word slippage here. There is the societal norm and then there is the personal normal. You are correct, there really is no “personal normal” as people are individuals and have different reactions, needs and wants. A societal normal is that which have accept is the proper / correct way to behave / act in a situation. There is a third normal which is a body normal, where if a stimulus A is given then result B is expected as the normal. That is simply a test where they see how many people react to things a certain way and then say it is normal if you do. It doesn’t say it is abnormal if you don’t. I agree with how you are thinking about it. Sounds right to me. We can dig deeper into this if you and your followers want to. discussion and conversations are fun. Now to run off to another discussion. Later. Hugs

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    • I see that we agree on all three aspects that you have displayed, I think to go further would only prove our point more, but give this a bit of thought is societal norm even obtainable, i myself think not as it then directly leads into the personal…

      All thru history society has had what it’s ideal was for… Fill in the the blank how you like, there’s no way I could see anyone meeting such a standard especially one that can change the rules on the fly…

      Glad you found something interesting in this one, may all your future discussions be as normal as this lol…

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  2. What Cory left out is that this was about one friend in particular, who is no doubt Post B. He slept with her and remained friends….. This was like two months prior to his relationship with post A. ( it was still fresh paint) But thank you for posting our private conversations online…

    Sincerely,
    The insecure one who has no refrain.

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    • Hello friend thank you for your comment i noticed there are flaws I would like address for you to have a better understanding of what you’ve read…

      The pupose of this post was to ask the question if the idea of normal was a plausible one, anything other than that such as the actions you’ve mentioned are only catalyst for what some call a “personal normal”, which is fine but it differs from person to person, I referenced this when I stated that details of the situations would be spared as well as my personal thoughts on the matter, as I know they are personal thoughts of myself and not the thoughts of everyone…

      Continuing on I see something another inaccuracy, friendship with the individual in the second example I gave or Post B as you call it and myself has all but ended, it can be proven by the removal of previous posts that in anyway link me to that individual, it’s possible it could be restored eventually but with that comes time…

      I am curious was this taken into consideration at the time of your post as the changes mentioned were made some time ago?

      Privacy and consideration were given to all individuals mentioned on this post…

      Your user name is of great interest to me as insecurities are the next topic I planed to discuss in this series, I hope you find interest in it, same as you did with this, do comment if you feel inclined…

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