Expectations Of Friendship

As much as I don’t like it as it’s truely a means to no end, I’ve been having thoughts of Lucy today, not like before in missing her presence, I’ve been thinking about friendship and what it all really means, since all things begin and end with her I guess it’s natural, from that came inspiration for this…

So what are expectations are of a friend? I should preface I have no problem helping anyone in need but i wonder sometimes at what point if there is any should the favor be returned, I’m not saying that if something is done for another there’s this idea of an automatic return, it’s more of what does it say about the person who asks and recieves yet never reciprocates…

Is it an individual thing… take Lucy I did a lot there far more than I ever should knowing it wasn’t possible to receive back due partly to her disability and selfishness, taking the following factors into consideration would that make one selfish themselves to expect back, if it is logic has me ask what is to be said about a person such as Lucy in the beginning for asking originally…

It also begs the question is it possible to be taken advantage of by a friend? If so at what point is enough, guess it’s kinda all connected to the whole expectations thing I guess…

So many variables only to lead to so many questions, ones I don’t have the answers too, maybe they’re aren’t any prerequisites for friendship when it comes to expectations, personally I just meet the needs of others if I’m able too head on, I figure it just avoids unwanted conflict…

Just something to think about really, if you should ever feel your getting used, my best advice if you are in something simular is to speak up, it may be as obvious as the sun, but not all things be seen all the time, so I’ve been told…

What Is Normal???

Inspired by a conversation I had with a good friend, check him out over at Scotties Toy Box lots of really good stuff over there, if you have a moment go over and show some love…

So… what is it to be normal? What qualities must a person possess within themselves which would be enough to fit the definition? Can normality even exist if we are all uniquely different?

Here’s an excerpt of a conversation I had with someone a while back, I’ll spare you the details of it all, but it revolves around the idea that I wanted to keep the friends I had before meeting her vs letting them go if there was to be a progression into a relationship, longer story short we don’t end up making it due to a lot of things, but I guess those are for stories later I suppose…

I know you’re thinking what does any of that have to do with normality well as it was told to me it’s what normal people do, letting friends go for the sake of something more with another is how a normal person thinks, i’m not into arguing if such an action is rite or wrong as I feel with that it’s a matter of personal opinon…

This idea though that something is what a normal person does is very dangerous I feel, in the sense it perpetuates the idea that there is an ideal that we as humans have that needs to be met…

In another excerpt from someone else, again I will spare the details of everything lol, what worries me is near the end where we see “its how I am. Its how most people I know are.” 

I’m all for independent thinking, if someomes thought or opinion is there own then I respect it, for it to have greater meaning only for the the fact it’s how most people think, well that’s where things get a little iffy for me…

So what do you think about it all, does the idea of being normal exist, if it does then what is it really, for me personally I think normal is a state of mind, there are no rite or wrong answers when it comes to how life should be approached, it’s all manifested within in the person, theres no way that one could really expect everyone to think the same, what we have here are examples of just that, a persons thoughts personally on what they feel is accurate, some may say that majority rules but I can’t say it applies to ones thinking it just can’t…

Just my opinion really, but like I always say I don’t have all the answers, the thought of an absolute way of thinking or personality to have to be “normal” scares me in a way honestly should it exist, it always begs the question of what is the person thereafter if they do not meet the status quo, just something to think about really…

Thanks for reading if you got this far, now off you go to enjoy some the more normal bloggers…